Frequently Asked Questions About Pleasure

There is no “normal” orgasm — everyone’s orgasms are a bit different! How long an orgasm lasts and how intense it is can be different every time you have sex.

Orgasms can happen through different kinds of sexual stimulation, both inside and outside of your body. For example, a lot of people experience orgasms by stimulating their clitorises rather than penetrating their vaginas. Some people can’t reach orgasm through vaginal sex at all. So, ask your partner what feels good. And while you’re at it, let them know what feels good to you, too.

All people experience orgasms in different ways, and they can feel different at different times. So there’s no reason to feel freaked out about asking if your partner had an orgasm 💦💦— asking shows that you care about making your partner feel good, which is super important when it comes to having good sex. Communicating about sex 🗣 — before, during, and after — helps both of you understand what the other one likes and doesn’t like, which can make sex better and strengthen your relationship💏.

Medically, the answer is a firm ‘no’ 🙅🏽‍♀️. Masturbating a lot won’t hurt you or cause serious health problems. It’s only a problem if it gets in the way of your daily activities – like school or social life. If you are worried, you can talk with an adult you trust. But odds are you’re not masturbating too much.

Masturbation can be great for stress relief 🧖🏽‍♀️🧖🏽‍♂️, and it has even been shown to increase your levels of happiness. It provides sexual satisfaction and you get to know your body, your likes and dislikes.

Masturbation is normal and is a natural way to learn about your body and find out what feels sexually satisfying🤯. Some cultures and religions are very open to masturbation and see it as a normal practice, others less so.

In the end, you are the only one who can decide whether masturbation is right for you. If in doubt, talk to someone you trust to get their input.

What will happen to me if I masturbate too much?

Masturbating a lot won’t hurt you or cause serious health problems. It’s only a problem if it gets in the way of your daily activities – like school or social life. If you are worried, you can talk with an adult you trust 👩🏽‍🦳👨🏽‍🦳. But odds are you’re not masturbating too much.

There are lots of health benefits associated with sexual pleasure: better general health, better self-esteem, better fitness, better sleep, less stress and tension and longer life.

Your own sex drive can change based on things like stress, medications you take, and other physical, emotional, and lifestyle factors.

Men usually masturbate by stroking or rubbing their penis at different speeds and intensities until they are aroused and have an orgasm. Many men fantasize about sex or watch porn while they do it. All that is completely normal.

No 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♂️. Unless you’re using unwashed hands or an unsanitary object, solo masturbation cannot cause disease or infection. Unlike sex with a partner, solo masturbation won’t lead to unintended pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections provided that the environment and objects are clean.

Most people say they have lost their virginity after the first time they have sex. But sex means different things to different people, so it’s up to you to decide what virginity means to you🧘🏽‍♀️. For the record, masturbation is normal and is a natural way to learn about your body and find out what feels sexually satisfying😉

Your own personal sex drive can change based on things like stress, medications you take, and other physical, emotional, and lifestyle factors. This affects everybody in varying ways throughout their lives.

Some people want to have sex every day or more than once a day, and some people hardly ever want to have sex. There is no normal!

Having a healthy sex life is about taking care of yourself, whether you have a partner or not. Physically, that means practising safer sex, getting tested for STDs regularly, preventing unintended pregnancies and seeing a health provider if you have sexual disorders or other health problems.

Having a healthy sex life means knowing what to do and don't want to do sexually and being able to communicate that to your partner. Your partner should respect your boundaries, and you should respect theirs.

Feeling good about your body, enjoying sexual pleasure, being comfortable with your sexual orientation and having healthy relationships are a big part of healthy sexuality.

Good sex can be safe, and safe sex can be good. Eroticising condoms makes for safe sex. What's your desire, know your condoms; types, sizes and flavours mint, grape, orange, banana, strawberry, bubblegum, chocolate, vanilla, bacon, and cola. Sometimes they are coloured to match the flavour, with yellow for banana and red for strawberry)

Women may sometime find discomfort or experience pain due to friction. You can use a few drops of lubricant on the condom to reduce friction and make sex pleasurable and safe.

Placing a drop or 2 (no more or the condom may slip off!) of water-based lubricant in the reservoir tip of the condom will increase a man's pleasure. The lubricant helps with the transfer of sensation to the head of the penis.

Talk to your partner to understand what makes them feel good. Support your partner in wearing condoms again. It provides an opportunity to explore each other's bodies and prolong foreplay, getting you both in a comfortable space and ready to have pleasurable sex without putting your partner at risk of unplanned pregnancy, STI or HIV.

All people experience sexual pleasure in different ways and can feel different at different times. Communicating to your partner, before, during and after sex, help both of you understand what the other one likes and doesn’t like. Know what you like first. Make sure you connect outside the bedroom, be encouraging, reward and give back!

If you want to communicate what you want in bed, you have to know what you want and what you like first; this means spending some time with yourself along with the time you spend with your partner. Explore your body and what feels good. If you know how to please yourself, then you can teach your partner how to please you.

Connecting outside the bedroom matters just as much for healthy sex life. Connecting on an emotional level is the first step to making sure you're in a good place to start talking more about what you desire. If you are preparing to ask your partner for what you want, and you want to make sure they're receptive, spend some time to make sure you are truly connected as a couple apart from sex. This could mean going on intentional dates or setting aside more time to talk and be yourselves together.

Before you ask what you want, you should start by being encouraging about what your partner is already doing and then lead them in the direction of what you want. Being encouraging upfront will make your partner more open to hearing about what you want down the road.

Orgasms can happen through different kinds of sexual stimulation, both inside and outside of your body. For example, a lot of people experience orgasms by stimulating their clitorises rather than penetrating their vaginas. Some people can't reach orgasm through vaginal sex at all. So ask your partner what feels good. And while you’re at it, let them know what feels good to you, too.